Sunday, November 1, 2009


Well, monitoring appointment went well enough. Didn't get my E2, but there are three follicles trying to take the lead. Of course, with my ovaries that certainly doesn't always mean a thing. But we'll see. I go back Tuesday to have another look-see.

I am exhausted, I have been entertaining people all weekend. We had a Halloween get together, and it was awesome to spend time with my friends and enjoy ourselves. Of course, it was a lot of work and I am ready to curl into a ball and sleep all week... wish I could.

I am having issues with a friend of mine, and don't know how to resolve them. I didn't invite her to my small get together- I only had two people over- and she feels very slighted. She is convinced it's because of her baby- because I am just the crazy infertile who hates people with babies, didn't you know.

I know she doesn't mean it like that, but I'm having some other issues with her too and she just keeps bringing this up. There are other issues, that even if I explained to her I know she wouldn't understand at all. I've tried to touch on them before, but she just does not even try to understand where I am coming from. I'm not going to get into it... but it's a huge mess.

Ungh, she sent me several angry text messages because I didn't invite her to my get together. Not just one, but several. I didn't think what I did was so bad, was it? There were a lot of people I didn't invite. Seriously.

Can I scream? I don't understand social crap at all, really.

Sorry, non-trying to concieve rant over and out.


WiseGuy said...

Well, I hope Tuesday is a one-up on the previous status, a bringer of even more good news.

I do not have much advice to give to you on your friend issue. Maybe you should take her out for a cup of coffee and have a straight talk.

How did she come to know of the get-together at your place? Invites are such a tricky thing to handle!

passingwindows said...

I've almost given up on the social crap, lost a lot of friends though. The closest friends I have kept, even if some of them I only communicate with by email. Fortunately they understand (and live far away). Good luck with your friend. Some people don't understand, and sometimes you just don't have the energy to deal with it. And no, you didn't have to invite her to your get together. This is not nursery school anymore, but people do get upset ...

Sweet Georgia said...

Sorry about the friend that just doesn't understand.

Hope one of those follies steps up and takes the lead.

Celia said...

Blech, have you considered breaking up with her? Some people are just black holes.

Michelle said...

I think if she is sending you angry text messages then you definitely made the right decision not to invite her. She does not sound like a very nice friend. We are all adults now so you do not have to invite everyone every time. I am sure she does not invite you every where. I hope you can get things cleared up with her. I hate it when people start acting like we are in high school.

Kristin said...

You absolutely can scream!

As for the friend you are having issues with, I would suggest writing things out in an email. Then the words are right there in front of her. Maybe end the email with an invitation to talk about it? Then, if she chooses to get angry of just doesn't get it, maybe it is time to take a more permanent step? And, if this all qualifies as assvice, please feel free to ignore it.


Shelby said...

Great to hear about your three follies. I really, really hope this is the one!

I'm sorry to hear about your friend. I had a similar situation (and should say I still 'have' as it's not been resolved) where a couple friend of ours popped out 2 kids in the time it took us just to get into treatment. Our friendships ultimately fizzled and yes, perhaps the kids had something to do with it, but there were also so many other issues (such as no reciprocity) and they just assumed that I was a bitter infertile staying away. It's really annoying when people come to their own conclusions. I hope you're able to resolve it!

Bluebird said...

Just wanted to say that I'm here and I'm thinking of you. Even when I'm way behind in my reading and then way behind in my commenting :), I'm here rooting you on. Sorry there's so much crazy in your life right now - wishing you peace and calm and, of course, a wonderful cycle. ((Hugs))

Jessi said...

I'm sorry, some people just forget their ages. I don't invite every friend I have to every social gathering I have either... some gatherings are just for some people, and I don't expect my friends to invite me to all their events either. Don't feel bad, some people just need something to be mad about. Does she invite you to every single gathering she has? If it was meant to be intimate with just a couple peeps, she needs to grow up.

Penny said...

No one tells you that friendships take an awful beating during the infertility treatment period.

I hope she's a big enough friend to put it behind her and move on!

Glad the appt went well.

birdsandsquirrels said...

Yay for the three follicles! Good luck at the scan tomorrow.
I'm sorry about your friend. She sounds awfully immature. Good luck dealing with her.

iamstacey said...

How rude that she would just assume that you would invite her to a private get-together! She's just using the baby thing because the other issues you've tried to touch on are things she would have to take responsibility for and she doesn't want to admit them. That's my take on it.

Your misscariages post was so sweet and heartbreatking. I'm so sorry. I hope all those cysts are gone and you can get back in the game soon.