One year ago I was about 5 weeks pregnant.
I was in my bedroom getting things ready for one of our nephew's first birthday parties.
I bent over,
and I felt intense sharp cramps.
One; two;
I ran to the bathroom.
Checked the TP.
And found blood.
Lots of blood.
I spent most of that evening in the ER...
(something I don't plan on ever doing again.)
Two days later it would be confirmed.
I'd just had my first miscarriage.
It's already been a year since then.
And what do I have to show for it?
More heartache, more loss, more grief?
I feel like screaming, "Stop! I can't keep doing this!"
But I can, and I am...
but I won't be for much longer.
I know that now.
It is firming up in my heart.
One more cycle; maybe.
An injectable cycle; perhaps one.
Some natural cycles... maybe
(Although, since I don't ovulate on my own, I don't think those will count for much.)
But, I know that this journey is about to end.
One way or another, in the next year we will be closing this chapter of our trying to concieve journey. And another chapter will be opening. I don't know what yet, whether one of these cycles will work, or if we'll be pursuing adoption full throttle... but this chapter, the here and now, will be closing.
I miss my lost ones.
I miss the future we should have had.
I miss the hope that used to illuminate the path.
And I am ready to let go of this.
I am ready to let go of failing
month after month after month.
Agony, pain, grief;
loss;
repeat.
I can feel something changing in my heart.
I can feel the dreams I used to have breaking off, and dying.
I can feel something else taking root in their place.
9 comments:
Beautiful, heartbreaking post, dear friend. I'm sorry that this is your reality. A year is so short, but yet you have had so many heartaches. . .
I don't know if you see it yet - and you may call me crazy - but I also read hope in your words. You believe that another chapter *will* be opening. I am so impressed by that. Your heartache, your missing - those will never leave you completely. But I'm proud of you for still finding a way to look ahead.
Thinkin about you and sending you lots of hugs!
I am so glad some new dreams are taking root. {{{Hugs}}} and prayers for you and know that whichever route you take we will be here with you.
I am sorry for your loss(es)! I will keep you in my prayers!
Missing your babies with you...
So sorry!
Hugs.
This post is amazing. Really honest and true. One way or the other...I hope and pray it is the one that ends with a baby.
This post really speaks to me - this is exactly how I feel:
"And I am ready to let go of this.
I am ready to let go of failing
month after month after month.
Agony, pain, grief;
loss;
repeat."
It is hard to let it go. I hope you don't have to, I hope that this last cycle works. But if it doesn't you will end up with a child. {{HUGS}}
Oh hun, I am sorry about this sad anniversary. Hugs.
I have shivers after reading this post. May you find peace either in this chapter or in the next.
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