Wednesday, August 14, 2013

Sooo, here's what's been going on-

Well, I finally called about the saline ultrasound. I got both the diagnostic and the procedure codes, and.... I'll be honest, I don't even know why we're paying for this insurance half the time. Insurance is great in emergencies (sometimes) but for your everyday medical needs it kind of blows.

First of all, the procedure is for my abnormal bleeding. It's "covered" but requires prior-authorization. Furthermore, as I have not met my deductible, I'd have to pay 100%. Soooo... yeah. The only reason I'd have it authorized is so it can count towards my deductible. Which doesn't feel like a very big incentive to me.

It's pretty expensive out of pocket, so we're not going to have it done at this time. I really don't think there's an issue, I just wanted to be sure, you know? Our only indication for it is the breakthrough bleeding on BCP, I don't have any issues while ovulatory. Both Dr. J and Dr. M said it would be nice, but were okay with not doing it too. I've taken that stance myself. It would be nice, and if I had some coverage I'd be all over it, but as it is... I'll have to pass for now.

Aside from that, I've upped my Inositol to 4g a day- so far no issues. I'm counting down the days now! Things are very busy right now, and will only get busier as the weeks go on. From here until the end of September I have plans pretty much every single weekend... all culminating in my friend's wedding! Not much longer!

Otherwise, I've been visiting with my sister and mediating various family drama.

About my last post, I should have clarified, but I was venting. It was about my mother and sister. My mother is mentally ill and I don't know how to tell her to mind her own business. She gossips, she's very needy, and if I tell her I don't want to talk about it she will cry, she will take it personally, probably stop talking to me for awhile, and then she'll gossip about it. It's complicated. As for my sister, she only comes up every two years- she asked in front of a large group of family, at a kid's birthday party. I thought my sister would know better honestly, I didn't expect it at all! It's one thing if she asked me over the phone, but at the party in front of my aunt, uncle, and cousins... just not an appropriate time.

However, it's true that I should figure out how to deal with these questions better, because deflection will only go so far. Right now though, my mother has already had multiple meltdowns this week over family drama (most made up in her head, god love her), and my sister is leaving Friday. When I have a chance I will figure out a standard response. I really don't know how to handle my mother, it will require a extreme level of tact and compassion... but I'll get it figured out. I usually do- it comes with the territory.

What else is going on?... I don't even know. I need a few days to recharge, because it's been one thing after another around here. I really do hope that thing start to settle down and lighten up around here.


Glass Case of Emotion said...

Just getting caught up on your blog... sounds like you have had a busy summer and not necessarily in a fun way. I hope things do calm down for you soon. I hate how IF makes us feel and how money and insurance dictate so much of our experiences. So frustrating.

Shelby said...

I'm sorry you're having to handle family drama like this and I can only imagine how difficult weathering your Mom's mental health issues has been for you, especially in childhood. Yeah, people do mean well, but there's only so much shielding of your heart you can do before your defenses are whittled. Thinking of you!

iamstacey said...

Next time yell back across the room to your sister, "Nothing new here, what's up with your uterus?" That should embarrass her for a little while. ;)

I haven't forgotten the Crinone! I need to get a mailer that I can put a gel pack in since it's so frickin' hot here in Texas. I'll pick one up at the post office this weekend!

AnotherDreamer said...

Stacey, LOL! That's awesome. Duly noted, will remember that one!

I bet it is hot in Texas, whew! My sister lives there and came up North here to visit, our weather got down to 55 at night, 65 one day, and they were enjoying that break :) And thanks!