Tuesday, November 20, 2012

Settling plans

My best friend got engaged the other day, and I am so happy for her. Truly. I've never heard so much happiness in her voice. Of course that means I get to be a bridesmaid. I've never done that before; I'm actually very honored.

Of course, that brings with it considerations for next year, when we were planning on trying to conceive another child. There's a few things to consider, since her wedding will be in late September. And unfortunately it requires a lot of fore-thinking. We have to consider each month we want to try and the possible ramifications for it being successful... or not being successful. I wouldn't want to be due (or too heavily pregnant) at the wedding because of my dress. I also can't be in the first trimester because of my risk for another subchorionic hematoma, and subsequent bed rest. So, that leaves us with TTC mid-March to June, then resuming in early October.

No idea about treatments right now; we're thinking of trying on our own for a couple months. With any luck I'll get a couple post-birth-control-pill rebound cycles. We still need to talk to my reproductive doctor regardless, but that's the plan for now.

I'm okay with this. Waiting is a good idea for a lot of reasons, and I'd already been pushing A to wait. Having to stop and resume, while not ideal, is also probably for the best. Putting it off gives us more time to prepare, for me to lose more weight, for us to do more things that we both want and need to. Maybe I'll get my tattoo for my birthday this year, the rose tattoo for the second loss. Who knows.

I'm good though. I'm happy with this plan. I guess I have a more laid back attitude this time around (either that or it's just because we're not in the thick of it yet). I don't want to let trying swallow me whole again though; I want to accept that whatever happens, happens. Time will tell. I might start singing another tune when things get more real, but for now I have months ahead of me where I can try to focus on other things: like working out more, eating better, a wedding (squee), and spoiling my son rotten.


Rebecca said...

Wishing you the best on trying. Hope it happens soon.

An Aspiring Mom-To-Be said...

Yay for you! I'm stuck waiting to TTC baby 2 for now, but I agree that as annoying as it is, it has been a good thing. Sometimes it is nice to feel like a normal person and not be consumed with all things infertility. You know... ENJOY life! I keep telling myself that it will be easy to not get as consumed with #2 (after all, "will I have a second baby" is totally different than "will I ever be a mom?"). But who knows. It is easier to be objective about things when I'm not in the middle of it!

And by the way, I've been meaning to comment (too busy, not enough braincells to string together words) about how good you look. Holy moly, you've done an amazing job!

AnotherDreamer said...

Thanks Rebecca :)

AAMTB: Yes, that's really how I'm looking at it right now. How I'll feel once we start... who knows... but right now, it feels good to enjoy the moment. And thanks about the weight loss too! I'm really trying.

The Steadfast Warrior said...

I've always been a planner and so think the same way about things. Even if the plan gets turned upside down it's nice to just be able think ahead a little bit without your head exploding. :P