tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145084082738588532.post6698251295333910419..comments2023-08-08T10:13:12.251-04:00Comments on An Unwanted Path: The Baby Shower-AnotherDreamerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11487881766884178761noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145084082738588532.post-88760376046806857182011-10-19T10:50:06.979-04:002011-10-19T10:50:06.979-04:00Thank goodness this is over, you got through it wi...Thank goodness this is over, you got through it with your Mom, and the wondering how it will go - at least! - is over. <br /><br />For me, it is extremely hard to have one foot in "both worlds." I used to be able to handle going to parties and showers, even if they were never really my thing. I prefer time with one close friend, easily.<br /><br />However, now gatherings like this feel increasingly artificial, forced, and fake. I think it's because there's so much grief inside. Even if I put on the game face, the inside is so different. I have less patience for that as time goes on. Events where the conversation is shallow are harder to bear than ever. <br /><br />I don't relish trying to jam grief and celebrating up next to each other. It doesn't work. Not in my heart, at least. <br /><br />By the way - I'm not saying at ALL that you aren't fully joyful about Nombie and wanting to celebrate him. It is just that you celebrate him with the realities of all that went before...<br /><br />Does this sound a little weird? I think I'd enjoy a gathering of grieving people best. At least we'd be on the same page and the "fake" would be less!<br /><br />As you process your experience more, what has been coming up? What kinds of questions or conversations do you wish had come into that day?<br /><br />You made it through - and you look cute, too. :)<br /><br />Cathy in MissouriGroveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14867095709948739457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145084082738588532.post-90202058998508022062011-10-18T12:31:17.039-04:002011-10-18T12:31:17.039-04:00I'm glad you made it through without much trou...I'm glad you made it through without much trouble. You look adorable!Celiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07681663732376253772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145084082738588532.post-58532094304703612762011-10-17T15:36:14.326-04:002011-10-17T15:36:14.326-04:00I've noticed that often parties that are throw...I've noticed that often parties that are thrown in one's honor are rarely for the one being honored but are more of a gossip session. Well at least the parties I've attended including the ones thrown for me.<br /><br />Its really too bad though that more attention wasn't given to you when you were opening up the gifts that they gave you. I would have thought that they would at least be wanting to know if liked what they gave you.<br /><br />I am quite thankful a meltdown with your mom was avoided. <br /><br />Did you get many photos taken of the shower?Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06316511791499949824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145084082738588532.post-85315488865341465832011-10-17T12:44:52.463-04:002011-10-17T12:44:52.463-04:00I soooo get this, my mother too has "issues&q...I soooo get this, my mother too has "issues" not just little ones, major on meds and in therapy issues and my shower was AKWARD...blows, but like you was so glad things went o.k. on shower day itself. Nothing like finally getting ready to parent your own long awaited baby while having to worry about parenting your parent ; ) I get it, I'm glad you made it thru, I'm happy you and nombie are doing well, cheers!Missy Fhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10219339553215569812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145084082738588532.post-44612037466877312852011-10-17T09:10:21.881-04:002011-10-17T09:10:21.881-04:00love your pic . you are beautiful with nombie :)
...love your pic . you are beautiful with nombie :)<br /><br />showers are just that . you come you talk you give a gift you eat.<br /><br />though they could have made you feel a bit more special . but people can weird about such things too if they feel odd or well just plain selfish with their own feelings. <br />I am glad though you had had yummy cake :)blueeyedtawnihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09945091580338252606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145084082738588532.post-15147260279770496282011-10-17T03:51:53.155-04:002011-10-17T03:51:53.155-04:00"The cake was nice (and yummy); Nombie was ha..."The cake was nice (and yummy); Nombie was happy about that too. Very happy."<br /><br />That is good. Silver lining, I suppose?<br /><br />You look gorgeous, btw.<br /><br />This chatter among relatives befuddles me sometimes. People just need an occasion to gather and they will manage to discuss anything and everything. How about being witness to a gathering after a funeral and people talking about eligible children or about whatever happened at someone's place or so on and so forth.<br /><br />I am glad your mom could not wreck the kind of havoc-meltdown that was possible. Also glad that hubby and friend understood and stayed at your side. Crisis averted, cake enjoyed, gifts brought home - that's good.St Elsewherehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08074672268757885766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145084082738588532.post-86113185487111952622011-10-17T00:24:48.231-04:002011-10-17T00:24:48.231-04:00I'm glad you got your baby shower! I wouldn...I'm glad you got your baby shower! I wouldn't know how to accept everyone's behavior, myself. I'd probably be pissed because its something we've been waiting for years for. Maybe they didn't know what to say with your history but there are still things they could've talked with you about other than the new nephew! Keep chuggin'! Glad to see a pic! You look awesome!Shannon Ivyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09292393806913901171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145084082738588532.post-26024482977628914322011-10-17T00:15:49.306-04:002011-10-17T00:15:49.306-04:00I'm glad there was nothing disastrous that hap...I'm glad there was nothing disastrous that happened but it's a damned shame they didn't try to make you feel really special. You look absolutely amazing.Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10791317184998122691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145084082738588532.post-2920625661100948452011-10-16T22:05:22.021-04:002011-10-16T22:05:22.021-04:00I'm glad nothing exciting happened at your sho...I'm glad nothing exciting happened at your shower. It stinks that Nombie wasn't really the guest of honor, but with all that you were worried about, I'd guess that even that might have worked out for the best. It just means that those of us who care about you deeply but live super far away can give you a virtual shower where we fawn over him when you share photos!!! (I will GLADLY give him attention long-distance as long as you share photos!!Ranaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06508181924363391801noreply@blogger.com